Need Help Giving Condolences?
I came across a helpful article the other day about offering condolences to grieving friends and family. The article was specifically targeted at men, who stereotypically have a more difficult time expressing sympathy than women do.
The author interviewed an experienced grief counselor, who offered a few of the following suggestions that are applicable to everyone — not just men.
Just be there. Often times the most important thing you can offer is your presence.
Less is more. When offering words — written or spoken — it’s best not to say too much, especially the words, “I know how you feel.” Because you don’t. A simple “I’m sorry for your loss” or “our thoughts are with you” will suffice.
Think practical. Instead of offering emotional support, do something tangible like mowing the lawn or making a meal. When it doubt, let your actions speak for themselves.
Follow their lead. If your friend doesn’t want to talk about the deceased, don’t. If they want to remember and process, let them.
For more advice and suggestions concerning offering sympathy and condolences, visit Valley of Life’s grief and loss section or read our related articles.
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