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I don't think I could handle the whole spouse dying before me. I have seen many of my family members faulter due to a broken heart. I never thought you could die from a broken heart but you really can. I have been heart broken before so I know to lose someone you love has to be hard.

I have seen alot of people go through this and it doesn't seem like an easy thing. I don't think that I would want to die after my spouse but I don't think that I would want to even go through that pain. So I would want to die before my spouse.

I've always had this thought in the back of my mind about my spouse passing before me. I sometimes wish that we didn't have to die but we must. If i had a choice, I think I want to be the one that pases first between my spouse and I. A very hard choice indeed.

My grandmother died 20 years before my grandfather died. It was tough for him for a long time

I think that I would be the one to first to go between my wife and I. I feel she will be strong enough to continue on with her life without me. I will truly miss her when that day comes, when I have to leave her.

I try not to even think about it to be honest with you.

I try and not to think about it also. I know my grandfather died way before my grandmother, I know it was very hard on her. I just hope I am the one that passes before my spouse. I don't think i can bare the pain.

I think about death a lot and wonder when that day may come. I wake up thankful I am alive. I think if I die before my wife. I can only imagine the pain and loss she will go though.

I don't even want to think bout it.

I do not even want to think about this topic. I couldn't bare the thought at all. I admit we have to face it though one day to come.

Yeah, I want to die before my mate. Then again we don't know when our time is. I couldn't even bare the thought of what my mate will got through when that happens.

I had a friend that lost her husband like last week. She is taking it reallly hard. She has moved and got rid of his stuff. She can barely go through a day without tears. She never thought it would happen. They both left each other for work. She went home and did her usual. She was cooking and got a call. He had been in an accident and died. She was devistated. So I can't bare the thought of losing my mate . I see. The pain she is goign through.

I CAN UNDERSTAND THIS LADY THAT HAS JUST LOST HER MATE! I'M STILL HAVING A HARD TIME AND IT'S BEEN TWO YEARS, I HAVEN'T GOTTEN RID OF MY BABE'S CLOTHES OR ANYTHING OF HIS! IN FACT I EVEN WEAR SOME OF HIS COATS AND LONG SLEEVE SHIRTS WHEN I GET COLD!

I GUESS I NEED TOO DO THINGS WITH THEM BUT FOR SOME REASON I DON'T I WONDER WHY? MAYBE THEY BRING ME SOME LITTLE BIT OF RELIEF THAT I HAVE STILL A PIECE OF HIM, I SOMETIMES SMELL THEM AND SIT AND CRY, I'M JUST WAITING TOO GO HOME WITH HIM ASAP.

BABE WAS MY SOUL MATE, MY COMPANION,MY LOVER,MY HUSBAND,MY FRIEND AND NOW THAT HE'S GONE I'M LOST!
JODA
P.S. WE WHERE MARRIED 32 YEARS AND KNEW EACH OTHER FOR TWO YEARS BEFORE WE MARRIED ON JUNE 1, 1973 AND I LOST HIM ON NOVEMBER 28, 2005 HE WAS ONLY 60 YEARS YOUNG HAD JUST TURNED 60 IN AUGUST.