Why couldn't I stop this tragedy?

[LisaW]

If you are a survivor of suicide, then you have asked yourself perhaps a thousand times what you could have done to prevent the loss. Every survivor knows the pangs of guilt and regret.

I work in the helping profession. Every day I work with people in need; it is my life work. So how does one live with the knowledge that we could not be effective with the person who needed us the most? This thought weighed heavy on me for a very long time.

One thing I have learned is that people cannot be made to want help. As difficult as it is to accept, some people do not want our help or any help. Some are more comfortable in their pain than with potential change. I do not presume to know what is in the mind and heart of someone who takes their life, but do know that it is their decision and not ours. We could perhaps have done some things differently, but we cannot hold ourselves accountable for the choices of another.

If you are carrying guilt or shame over the suicide of a loved one, please learn to forgive both them and yourself. It is a tragic loss that can never be regained. To lose your own well being to a load of pain would be a second unnecessary loss. Regret will steal another life from this earth in a slow and painful suffering. If you need help to move past this point of regret, please consult your physician or clergyperson for resources.

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My grandfather commit suicide when I was 9years old and It was so hard time for my family. We were difficult to survive the grief of suicide. We can't stop any tragedy to do. We are nothing against God's power. So only God can stop this tragedy. Family Tree Charts